What you’ll get out of tuning in:

• How to generate positive stressors and avoid negative stressors.
• How to clarify your ambition.
• How to achieve your ambition while avoiding negative stressors.

Links Mentioned in Episode:

• Have a Career Conversation with one of our Coaches!
• Yogahealer Podcast
• Order Cate Stillman’s new book “Master of You”

Show Highlights:

• Cate leads you through an exercise to help you clarify your ambition.
• Cate explains the 80/20 rule in yogic and Ayurvedic terms.

Timestamps: 

• 0:25-3:00 – Intro – What are positive stressors and negative stressors?
• 3:00-6:55 – Exercise – Get present with your ambition.
• 6:55-11:30 – What’s the easier way to achieve your ambition?
• 13:46-17:39 – Does your business model funnel your ambition while avoiding negative stressors?
• 17:39-20:44 – The 80/20 rule and how to avoid shiny object syndrome.
• 20:44-22:52 – How to efficiently and effectively use social media.
• 22:52-26:15 – How Yoga Health Coaching gives you the skills you need to achieve your ambition.

Favorite Quotes:

• “If 80% of your time is not generating 80% of your results, it’s not working.”  — Cate Stillman
• “When you care so much about the people that you want to guide on a deeper healing journey, that you want to guide on deep transformational life awakening, when you care so much about that, you’re willing to examine your self . . . you’re willing to self-reflect; you’re will to study and say, ‘Okay, in looking back, what I see is this 80% of how I spend my time – can’t keep doing that. This 20% of what I did – that had impact. I gotta dial that up.’” — Cate Stillman
• “Trust your desire. Trust your desire to make a great living, to have a lucrative lifestyle. Trust your desire to really help people at the level that other people have helped you on your healing journey as a wellness pro. Trust in that.” — Cate Stillman

Eighteen months after the birth of her twins, Lael was close to burnout and harboring resentment in her marriage. She and her husband started couples therapy where Lael was forced to confront her own addictions. A couple of years after saving her marriage and overcoming her addictions, and at a time when life seemed good, she received a cancer diagnosis. During treatment, Lael was forced to slow down, and her time spent in contemplation became the turning point in her life.

Lael was introduced to yoga in college but it wasn’t until her cancer diagnosis that she recognized the spiritual benefits of the practice and started waking up to her own life. She started yoga teacher training. During teacher training, Lael found Yogidetox and Yoga Health Coaching, and she now feels like she is following her dharma. With each round of Body Thrive, Lael feels like she’s peeling back more and more layers, and now, as a coach, she gets to see it all from another perspective. Connection with her higher power keeps her effective, efficient, and inspired.

What you’ll get out of tuning in:

• How the habits of Body Thrive lay the groundwork for deep transformation.
• How burnout, addiction, and resentment can masquerade as highly functional.
• Why you don’t need to be (and probably shouldn’t be) perfect to be a good coach.

Links Mentioned in Episode:

• Yogidetox
• Body Thrive
• Yoga Health Coaching
• Lael’s website

Show Highlights:

• 1:00 – Yoga health coaches are able to show up in a really honest way and share their struggles with each other and with the people they coach.
• 2:00 – Lael has been a therapist in private practice for 11 years. She has faced burnout, addiction and disease, and has overcome them all.
• 9:00 – Despite appearing as though she was doing all the “right things” and functioning at a very high level, Lael was missing the deep self care she needed. She deepened her yoga practice, started yoga teacher training, and found yoga health coaching.
• 14:15 – Lael is now running her first yoga health coaching group. She feels as though she has awakened to her own life. Through health coaching, she is able to share and to be real with her clients in a way that she couldn’t in a clinical setting. She feels she can now help people in a practical way.
• 19:45 – For lasting habit change, kaizen (small, incremental steps toward great change) is Lael’s top tip.
• 24:00 – Scheduling in down time, time to connect with her higher power, keeps Lael effective, efficient, and inspired.

Favorite Quotes:

• “Sometimes our desire to be with other people is a distraction from our own stuff.” — Lael Peterson
• “I was doing all the right things, . . . but it wasn’t that deep self care. It wasn’t about slowing down at all. It was very busy. It wasn’t about really listening to my true desire. . . . It was doing what was in front of me and what I was good at. . . . And I wasn’t unhappy, but it wasn’t sustainable.” — Lael Peterson
• “I didn’t want to be one way in my personal life and one way with my clients. I wanted to take everything that I was learning in my personal life and bring it to people.” — Lael Peterson
• “I want to be real with people. . .  I want to help people in a real, practical way. And I feel like health coaching and what I learned in Body Thrive is perfect for people. It’s exactly what they need to know.” — Lael Peterson
• “It’s incredible to hear that coming from a therapist’s perspective, because I very much felt the same way: No matter what the issue is, start with the habits of Body Thrive, and then see what flushes out.” — Carly Banks
• “How could you have any clarity about what’s actually driving you crazy, when you’re so out of rhythm; you’re so out of sync?” — Lael Peterson
• “I am only as effective or as efficient or inspired as I am connected. . . . It’s really, really important for me to be connected to my higher power, and the way I do that is by getting away from my regular life.” — Lael Peterson

Guest BIO:

Lael is a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, yogi and yoga teacher. She’s a recovering addict, cancer survivor, spiritual seeker, and nature lover. She’s also a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been providing support, education and therapy for the past 15 years. Lael offers individual therapy as well as yoga health coaching. Her personal life experience combined with her professional expertise and her innate passion to help people live better lives forms the basis of her practice. Her approach is create an atmosphere of safety and acceptance where her clients can dig deep and get real. Connect with lael on her FB page Lael Petersen and her website .

Knowing there are others in our market doing a little (or a lot) better than we are lets us know what is possible. It also forces us recognize what sets us apart so that we can capitalize on our unique strengths. Collaborating with competitors allows us to create something that didn’t exist before, something that benefits everyone involved, including our clients and/or students.

We all have the capacity to create. When we recognize and optimize our unique strengths, competition becomes a means to our success. When you merge competition, creativity, and innovation, the possibilities are limitless. When you orient from that place, you start to understand your own value, and you’ll find there’s more than enough work for you to do.

What you’ll get out of tuning in:

• How you can generate your own market by combining your creativity with the issues you truly care about.
• How authentic connection and collaboration with competitors benefits everyone.
• How to figure out what unique value you offer.

Links Mentioned in Episode:

• Body Thrive
• Yoga Health Coaching
• Wealth Dynamics
• How to Fascinate
• DISC
• Gallup Strengths Finder

Show Highlights:

• 1:00 – Some of us love competition. It gives us a way of “keeping score” and helping us to perform better. Knowing there is someone out there doing a little bit better (or a lot better) than we are lets us know what is possible. It forces us to see where our unique strengths are and what sets us apart, and we can use that to grow our business.
• 8:00 – Collaboration with our competitors makes it possible to create something within the pro healer market that didn’t exist before.
• 12:00 – When you combine your creativity with issues you genuinely care about, you’re generating a niche; you’re generating your own market.
• 17:00 – Even in small communities, what might seem like competition can actually be transformed into mesh relationships that benefit everyone: business owners, clients, and the community as whole.
• 21:00 – Collaboration must include authentic connection in order to be a successful two-way street.
• 23:00 – Your ability to connect and collaborate with other pro healers who offer things you don’t offer adds value and depth to your services.
• 25:00 – We all have the capacity to create. When we recognize and optimize our unique strengths, competition becomes a means to our success. When you merge competition, creativity, and innovation, the possibilities are limitless. When you orient from that place, you start to understand your own value, and you’ll find there’s more than enough work for you to do.
• 32:00 – If we continually show up and provide value, it allows people to mature in their own way, sometimes elsewhere, and then come back to you.
• 34:00 – In order to figure out what value you offer, combine your expertise with your personality strengths, and track your interests.

Favorite Quotes:

• “If anyone follows any kind of competitive sports, you’ll hear sportscasters talk about the assets and the weaknesses on each team. And it’s not that the team’s not aware of their own assets and weaknesses; it’s everybody’s really aware of who’s going to leverage what. And if we bring that into our careers as wellness pros, we can also see that.” — Cate Stillman
• “Human beings are inherently creative. We can’t not create.” — Cate Stillman
• “Those of us who have been damaged in our labeling, and we label ourselves as an uncreative person, you’re just out of touch with your own humanity.” — Cate Stillman
• “We are creative. We are designed to thrive. We are designed to connect. And that’s always going to be emergent.” — Cate Stillman
• “More than anything, for me, collaborating is fun!” – Grace Edison
• “One of the things you’ll start to realize, if you haven’t already, in pro healers, is that everyone’s making it up. If someone has a platform, they built that. If someone has a unique offering, they created that. We all have this creative capacity.” — Cate Stillman
• “Who you are is your advantage.” — Cate Stillman